By Ebenezer
Note- This is based on true life event…pick your lessons. (names used here is not the real name of the writer)
My name is Rose, I have been married for about twenty years now. They always say marriage is sweet maybe when there is money, it is sweeter. I have all these; I have my husband and three children.. still am scared of my marriage…why? You want to know, then you have to pay proper attention to my story….
It was cloudy that particular day, I was waiting earnestly in my room for him to call since it would be my birthday the following day. I was moving from one end of the room to another. Whenever, there is a call or my phone rings, I would jump up from where I sat, I was expecting his call but he was not the one it was one of my friends that called.
“Hello Rose, what is popping tomorrow, I hope all preparation has been put in place” Anita a close friend of mine called to check on me.
“Nothing much, I am expecting his call but it is not coming” I said to Anita.
“Ohh, dear, never mind, he will put a call through to you soon” She replied.
Anita has been a close friend of mine since university days, we were like five and sic, we behave like twins that some people felt we might end up marrying the same man but it was a lie. It was through Anita that I met Jude. She introduced me to him after he declared his interest in me. Although by that time I was in my thirty.
Hmmm, you might be wondering what kept me this long, I am beautiful woman, I have money because I work in a company in Lagos and I am paid over 200,000 every month which I believe it is okay for a single lady. My parents are pastors and are financially stable, so there is nothing to spend more on like that. I was even been sent monthly stipends by my father who always refer to me as a small baby but it was just a show of love.
Immediately I hanged the call from Anita, Jude call came through just like she had said.
“Hello baby, what has delayed you in calling me and you know that tomorrow is my birthday” I asked him.
“You love to complain too much, at least I have called you, so lets save the stress of the questioning and answer” That was jude response to be.
“Okay, so where are we meeting for the celebration tomorrow” I asked him.
“Ohh, babe, you are always too fast, just relax, I will communicate the place for you.
You might have been noticing the kind of relationship, I and Jude keeps together. Although he complains that I always ask too many question but I thought he would adapt to my own style of doing things.
Mind you before I dated him, I have dated several guys but is was not leading to anywhere, it was this that made my mum called me one day and advised me.
“Rose you are not getting younger again, when will you settle down, I am tired of seeing you in this your single life status” My mother always tells me anytime I visit her.
“I know mum but you see these guys are not committed” I would tell her.
“But out of them, try and make one committed to you” My mum will tell me.
And it was the truth, most of the guys I dated earlier, it is either they leave whenever I refuse to open my skirt up for them, but time was going age was not on my side. It was this issue of not having a stable boyfriend that made Anita connect me with Jude. I had barely known him for a long time, probably let me say a month. He had demanded for s3x from me. At first I rejected but after pressure and begging from Anita and himself, I yielded. Since then, I gave him my body voluntarily even without him asking for it. He was the only one that had stayed for a longer time now. We have dated for six months now and we are still together.
Hmm. But there are some secrets that I didn’t know about Jude, although some were later revealed in his actions but I can’t lose him again, this time I was thrity one and will be celebrating my 32th birthday the next day so I just have to hook up to him…
After the some minutes, Jude called again…”candy, that venue is at Eko hotel” He screamed it to my ears.
“Wow, I shouted and kissed my phone to show I really appreciate. Little did I know about what was going to happen tomorrow. I called Anita and told her, she told me she was happy for me.
Mind you, jude is a son of one of the business mogul in Lagos and he own his business too which was moving very fast and he makes a large sales from his company.
That night I could not sleep, I was the first person to wake up at my lekki apartment, I rushed to take my bath and moved to the location for my birthday. The atmosphere was serene and calm, I could hear some background music and everything in order. I saw HAPPY BIRTHDAY ROSE written all over the place, I couldn’t imagine how much he must have spent on the decoration. I sat down watching those in the hall, my friends started arriving into the hall and there was sign of Joy…
I waited patiently for Jude to come since his number was not going through…but he came later after some hours and explained that he was delayed in the hold up in Lagos. I could not quarrel with him, nor ague as I was just happy seeing him. After everyone was seated and we were chit chatting, I saw some guitarist enter and started playing singing this popular Tu face song “African queen”. My head began to swell like I was feeling myself. On that spot Jude held my hand and knelt down and said to me “ Rose, would you be my wife” That word was like, am I dreaming, I jumped with joy and answered him.
“Yesssssssssss, I will be your wife” I said with Joy and every present clapped and some even made video. That day, I was so happy that I was feeling on top of the world but little did I know.
After about one hour after he proposed, Jude took excuse that he wanted to see someone and he left but forgot to take his second phone. Barely five minutes, his phone beeped a message and what I saw scared the hell out of me.
It reads…….
Find out in the next episode..
MY MARRIAGE DIARY
Episode Two
After about one hour after he proposed, Jude took excuse that he wanted to see someone and he left but forgot to take his second phone. Barely five minutes, his phone beeped a message and what I saw scared the hell out of me.
It reads “Baby, why are you keeping me waiting since, can’t you dismiss her and come to me, I am waiting for you at the usual spot. Your love”
Immediately, I began to shake, I was no longer myself, I wanted to scream but it was not coming. Everyone in the hall were just eating and taking pictures but I was no longer the same. I have always read about something of this nature but it has not happened to me before but this time it is real. I searched to find Anita to tell her what I saw. Luckily, I saw her chatting with a male friend. I quickly call unto her because I don’t know what might happen if there was no one to clam me down. I stared at the ring on my hand, it was like I should remove and throw it away but I was still trying to control myself so as not to create a scene when Anita came to my side and asked me what happened.
“Girlie, what happened to you that your face look squeezed up” She asked me
“ You have to see me burn, Anita, you introduced me to him …Like….” I could not say anything further
“What is it, like I can’t really decode what is happening here” Anita said staring at me.
I dragged her to a corner of the hotel and explained all that happened, likewise I showed her the message that pooped out of Jude’s phone.
“ What you mean Jude is still cheating after all you have done” Anita exclaimed.
“Yes, I am confused, he just proposed today, should I return the ring and walk out of the relationship” I asked her.
“Wait, you don’t have to rush things, lets wait for him to come back then we will know what to do to him” Anita said to me.
Throughout the day, I was just speechless and I was foaming with anger, I moved from one end to the other, from one corner to another, I was just pacing up and down, my head was not settled, I left the birthday to my house with Anita coming behind me, I switched off my phone because I was really pissed off by what had happened.
I believe that Jude must have be trying my line, probably when he got to hotel, he didn’t meet me nor his phone.
It was the horn from his car that made me know of his presence, Anita opened the door, he walked in, I think he already knew his game was up. I stood up and confronted him.
“How can you do this to me, after all I have done for you” I said to him.
At first he was pretending as if he knew nothing about what I was talking about but when I removed his ring and threw it at him, he then realized that I meant business. Immediately he started begging that it was the devils’ work and that the lady had seduced him to come to her place.
“Ahh, men, why are you lying, she seduced you or you went to me her” Anita shouted at him.
“I couldn’t control the urge, I am sorry, please” He said as he was already sweating.
“If it was s3x that made you go to her, I gave you my body whenever you demand for it and when you did not, I willingly gave it out for you” I said to him.
Although that was one of my mistakes, s3x will never keep a man, a man that wants to cheat will cheat and the one that will not cheat will not cheat.
“Please I am sorry, forgive me, this last time” he begged me.
Although that was not his first time, I had caught him on several occasion but he defended himself that they were co-workers.
“Jude, how will you be holding another lady by her waist” I questioned him.
“Ehhmm,. She said she was having an ache on the waist” He lied to me.
“Her waist was aching her so you are the doctor to help her massage it” I said to him
“although it was not what you thought” He replied me then.
But when the argument got tense, he was forced to slap me. That was the first time in my life that the guy I am dating would go to the length of slapping me over an argument. I was furious but he kept on begging. Still I don’t know the kind of begging prowess he got, I still decided to stay with him in spite of the slap he gave me and the way he had been treating me, probably I should say because I was overdue for marriage and with my age then over thirty and men were just dumping me, so I never wanted Jude to go like that but I have to endure the abusive relationship which was another grave mistake I made.
He started begging that night since he knew I met business but I didn’t listen, even Anita supported me in not hearing his plead.
That night he left my room without any positive response from me. But, it was text messages upon text. Calling always from him till I got tired of keeping distance with him. Anita likewise suggested that I should forgive him since he had promise never to cheat on me again and I did. We were back in our relationship and since I was not getting any longer I asked him to take our relationship to the next level.
My dear reader, I want you to understand something here, I was the one that was interested in getting married not him, I was the one pushing him around, I was the one that needed a husband. It was a mistake that I still regret in my life, don’t force yourself on a man. My dear ladies reading this story. A man will want you if you have a self esteem.
It is through I had my money but I reduced my self esteem all because of marriage that it made it look like I was being pitied by him marrying me.
After a month of getting together and trying all types of S3xu@l act with the slightest chance, I wanted to use this in keeping him as my own. I will dress like an harlot in his presence just to be appealing to him. Oh, lest I forget I was older than him, he is 27 years while I was 32 years so I think this was drive me stupid to do all that and now I regret it.
“So you want us to get married so quick” He asked me.
“Yes, I can’t wait to have my want child, all these years you have been wasting your seeds in the ground, I don’t like that idea, I want your seed inside of me, I want to carry your baby, please marry me” I said to him.
Mind you he proposed to me, but I was the one proposing marriage to him now, which is bad, please don’t do that ladies reading this story.
“Okay, if that is what you want, since it will make you happy, there is no problem about that, I will sure do that” He said to me.
I was happy that day and I started dreaming about how that day will be. Less I forget I had wanted to tie Jude down with pregnancy earlier when I felt I might lose him but as a result of my promise to have a white church wedding to my parent prevented me from doing so.
I prepared for my wedding like it was the end of the world that day and on the D-Day all my husband family were seated including mine. You need to see my gown that day, it was the best in town. It was colourful and lavish that it was the talk of the town.
We finalized the wedding and we got home; you know the joy of seeing your husband again all over without clothes on as both of you explore each other was all over me. Although countless times we both have seen our n@kedness so what should be new but it was all natural that I am now legally married.
“Lets get into business” I said as I was trying to off my clothes.
“Hmm, but you have to wait a bit, am tired right now” Jude said not looking at my eye.
“But I need you right now” I said to him
“Woman, please, today was stressful so please, let me be, I said I am tired” he replied.
At first I was shocked but I left him and went to the bed, looking defeated. But I gave my try again in the middle of the night but what I got was beyond my comprehension,
“What, you….how can you….
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